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Careless or Rushing?

12/28/2015

The words careless and rushing are used interchangeably in the common conversation. "He spilled the coffee because he was rushing. He spilled the coffee because he was careless."

I think they are not the same thing. When someone is careless they do not care. They care less. We even have the sentence, "I could care less." This means I don't give a hoot. It is a conscious act of less love and attention being bestowed upon a task or a person. It is meaning that the other person or task is not as special or worthy as you. To me, it feels like an insult.

Rushing, on the other hand is moving too quickly towards other tasks, and not really focusing on the present moment. Perhaps the to-do list is so long that one feels overwhelmed. Rushing is motion without stopping to smell the roses. It is not intentional.

I think we need to differentiate between the two words and choose carefully what we say. Our words and thoughts are so powerful. My mentor says, "What you think about, you bring about." Yes, I know it is true. When we can change the internal dialogue, and then repeat, repeat, repeat, we will believe our new thought patterns. Then we act in a way to support that new belief. Yes!

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Celebrations Without Food Focus

12/21/2015

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As we wind down the year's end, the parties are truly winding up. There is an invitation to celebrate friends, family, work colleagues, Chanukah, Christmas, Eid, Kwaanza, New Year. sales at the stores, restaurants with coupons for free meals, birthdays, anniversaries...You get it. There are many opportunities to honor your circle of influence. Usually they are celebrated with fattening, processed, fake foods. The real movement of real food is usually ignored at this time of year. I offer you the thought process that honors friends and family without sabotaging your health goals.

Just for today, when you are invited to the book club party, offer to bring the vegetable platter with a homemade dip. Offer to make a huge salad. Offer to bring a protein to the party at the senior center. At the gift exchange, bring raw chocolate bars without sugar, preserved, fermented vegetables, sushi or kombucha tea.

There are many ways we can celebrate without the focus being on food.For example, rather than dessert hop to friends on Christmas Eve, try going for a long walk with your family and friends to watch the colorful decorated neighborhood lights. The cold air is invigorating and you may discover a new favorite light display! Instead of stuffing your faces and then watching football all day, this Christmas day, try celebrating the spirituality of the holiday with a fast, broken with tea and prayer. Go outside for a hike. Walk in the woods, play tag in the snow. Play catch or frisbee. do something that honors yourself and the longevity with agility you so desire.

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THE QUEST FOR THE TRUTH VS THE NEED TO BE RIGHT

12/14/2015

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1970s: BAD! DON'T EAT SATURATED FAT!

2015: GOOD! SATURATED FAT IS NOT THE ENEMY!

When scientists set out to test a theory or have a burning desire to find answers or cures, they are effectively seeking truths. Scientific facts are, in essence, truths. That is, until someone else takes a similar journey with the same goals and discovers something else entirely different, or a similar, but not exact outcome. Does this mean that the first scientist is now a liar? Is his or her information now entirely wrong, a little bit wrong, or something in between? Perhaps the bounty of information is just larger, that's all. I compare this situation to a fruit basket with a few varieties of fruits versus a fruit basket with many species of fruits. Both baskets have fruit in them, but one will give us more nutrients and more varieties of nutrients, which may in turn make us more healthy all around.

Some scientists work for years on one thing, so specialized, and they are known to be the experts in their areas of interest. So when years later, their reputation and work is questioned with new findings and research discoveries by the next generation, the "old school" scientists are miffed, and defend their work to the end, even if they may have an inkling that new questions must be asked as times change. To me, this is a classic case of the need to be right. I think humans have a strong desire to be right more than almost anything in the world. Perhaps it is the survival of the species instinct, or the alpha mode, or the leadership characteristic coming out strong.

Either way, we humans need to be able to shift with the times, whether or not it makes our past truths null with the new truths. We do not need to always be right, and a noble person can say out loud, to one's community, " I was right at the time, but new information is here that tells more than what I offered. I am wrong, I am learning alongside of you all." To me, that's what the essence of science is. It is a set of facts that ask us to ask more and more questions and have a thirst for more and more knowledge. Science is malleable as the times are, with technology, atmospheric, and ecological changes affecting, well, everything.

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KJ Landis
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The Benefits of Being Early

12/7/2015

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My loved ones all know I love to be early. It is more than love, kind of like a need, a flaw of sorts, maybe bordering on OCD in that one area of my life. If I have to be at work at 5pm, on the restaurant floor, I will leave my house about 3:15pm, even though I live about 12-15 minutes away. In my mind, I think, "What if there's traffic, an accident, a baseball or football game, a bridge closure, road work, rush hour, a big concert in town, etc.?" I usually arrive to work with plenty of time to spare. So, what do I do when I get anywhere early?

My first activity is usually to moisturize my face and hands. Then I use my (always handy) tweezers to pluck my pesky moustache hairs, my eyebrow strays, and my mole hairs. After that, I apply makeup, unless I am going to exercise. I return phone calls, check off my daily to-do list, and clean the dash board and interior car windows. After that, I write. I work on my blog, my book, my social media messages, my newsletters and campaigns. I email folks and try to edit pictures for above tasks. If I didn't arrive everywhere early, very early, I probably would not have written a couple of books. I find parking (very challenging in San Francisco) with plenty of time to meditate, pray, contemplate new creative endeavors, and rouse up new motivation for my goals.

When I first met my husband, he said to me, "I have to tell you that one of my faults is that I am usually late." I replied, "Not with me, you won't be (late)." Almost 27 years later, he is rarely late, and calls ahead to let me know the situation (if it is out of his control). You see, my philosophy is that if people are chronically late, it is a power and control issue. If they are late, they are silently saying that their time is more valuable and at a higher level of importance than your time. It is a sign of disrespect and dishonor not to honor the other person who is taking time out of their day to be in your presence. On the other hand, I believe that if you are on time or early consistently, it shows respect and honor towards the events and people you are spending time with. And, it gives you time to chill out before meeting up with anybody, and perhaps write a book! Really, how difficult is it to leave your house a few minutes earlier in order not to feel the pressure, stress, or lack of respect for those waiting for you? I am not hating on anybody here, just sharing my philosophy.

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KJ Landis
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