Why can't we meet our goals?
The answer my friends, is stress. Stress plays an important role in our vitality and health, our longevity and attitude. How can we have a good attitude towards the world when we feel like sh#%t? How can we live a long time when our sugar levels in the blood spike due to our stress? How can we release body fat when the stress hormone cortisol is telling our brain and body to hang on to dear fat because we are in a real emergency?
I suggest that you take ten minutes and write down everything that causes you stress on one side of a paper. Draw a line down the middle.Then on the other side, list the things that give you pleasure. Remember, this is for your eyes only, so do not be shy. Little or small, the pleasures and stressors affect every other area of our lives. If the stress list is longer than the pleasure list, take action about how you can reverse that, one little bit at a time.
Let me give you an example: I feel stress when the house isn't in perfect order before I go to sleep. I know it's late. I know I just worked a late shift at the restaurant. When I get home, if I see dishes in the sink, shoes not in the closet, blankets left on the couch, mail out of the mail basket, etc....I CANNOT WIND DOWN! Then it will be impossible for me to sleep. So, I can take two roads to release the stress and get to sleep. I can stay up an extra hour and clean up, or I can throw everything away in the trash, and damn it all. If the family misses it, they should not have left the items laying around in the first place. I have employed both solutions to releasing that stress in the past, and it worked very well. Writing a note on the kitchen table for them to see how upset I was also serves my communicating purposes so that they may not be so sloppy and cluttered in the future.
What can you do to lessen your stress? What can you delegate to other family members to assist in the tranquility that you need to thrive? What can you give up? I gave up grocery shopping, except for my special raw dairy items. I order a lot of things by internet now. I made an agreement with my husband that we would stop arguing about whose turn it is to deep clean the entire house. We acquired a cleaning service every two weeks. Argument over.
Stress less, less cortisol. Then the things you are doing in diet and exercise can take full effect, and you will see the fat finally release from your body.
Now it is time to add more pleasure to your life. Little moments of laughter, joy, sunshine, singing in the car, whatever gives you joy, go and do it!
It is sad that when we get older, many of us lose our short and long term memories. We need to play games that stimulate the memories. We need to add pleasure to our lives so that if we do have memory loss, the memories we recall from time to time will bring us joy and happiness.
What things truly bring pleasure to your life? Write them down and vow to do them. Then make a bucket list. Look at these lists daily to remind you that no matter what age, we can still have goals.
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