What a joyful time of the year for all of us in San Francisco. What we miss in the changing of the colors in the leaves because of our temperate climate being about 65 degrees Fahrenheit all year long, we make up for in enthusiasm for my favorite holiday! The homes are decorated more so than Chanukah or Christmas, and more creatively too. The neighborhoods try to outdo each other in fancy chocolates or themed streets and parties for the whole neighborhood. Some areas even have barbershop quartets singing holiday songs from every holiday! Streets are blocked off from autos, so kids can feel safe walking in the middle of the road. Embracing my inner child, and the fact that my birthday is so close to Halloween is a real warm and fuzzy time for me. I encourage all of you to embrace your inner child, put on some craziness, and have fun making memories.
Many of us try to fix ourselves or the folks around us with good intentions. The usual barriers are distractions like errands, foods, drinks, events, work, media, etc...
I am aware of this because I participate in procrastination too. I focus on the problems and the many ways my problems, although small when compared to others', takes on many layers and facets. The adjectives and layers of issues can grow in my mind, kind of like an candy apple bar at Neiman Marcus. I add the layers of chocolate, caramel, nuts, more white chocolate, etc., until the apple is beautiful and full of many colors. But the goodness is in the shiny green Granny Smith apple at the center of the candy apple. The fiber, vitamins, and goodness lie underneath. I must get rid of the upper layers by eating them or cutting them away. I must deal with the "stuff" I don't want in order to really be attentive to what I do want. In our lives it is the same.
Focus more on the solutions and the creative aspects there. Fantasize and write down the solutions, no matter how wild they may seem at first. The problems in your life will eventually fade away because you are not spending time and energy there anymore. After all, we only have 24 hours a day to spend our energy and experience everything.
We cannot serve others until we have served ourselves. When we do just that, the answers seem to appear little by little, out of "nowhere." The appearance of the right solution is a result of a slowing down and letting the creative imagination flow. I am a huge fan of the mind-body connection, of making lists, coloring, going out for a walk in nature, and of breath.
What do you do to make your shift from the problems to the solutions? Are you open to your personal muse? The muse is the little angel on your shoulder nudging you to do something new and different than you ever did before in order to receive a different result that makes you feel like you are taking steps towards your personal bliss. Routines are good, but they may not always serve you in every situation. Sometimes routines feel safe and convenient. Now I ask you to lift your eyes up to the heavens and say YES to new possibilities that serve your highest purpose!
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What Can a Smile Do? Everything.
I work with a charming Spaniard named Jose. When I first met him years ago, he walked and talked quickly, with lots of natural energy and vibrancy. His smile was brilliant and honest. I told him, "I love your smile." He replied, "It's yours."
I never forgot his words. I think about those words when I am having a blah day, or just going through the motions of my errands and responsibilities. The power of those words, the gift of his smile to me, meant everything to me in that moment. Jose may not read this blog, or even know his impact upon my life, but that's what we humans can be and are to each other: everything. Imagine what your smile or gentle gesture may mean to another person, especially if they are feeling fragile or vulnerable. I think we all do kindnesses that we do not even realize, and that gives me hope even during the dark times.
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Taking My Own Advice as Medicine
Today I want to write about physical pain, chronic pain, the kind that stays with us 24/7. I know my friends and family suffer the effects of diseases and conditions associated with normal aging, wear and tear, and injury pains. Some have autoimmune diseases or cancer. The point here is to manage the constant pain with a myriad of approaches so we do not fall into depression. I had a close friend from church who committed suicide about 10 years ago, because he had chronic back pain, the doctors could not find any source of the pain, and he felt hopeless. He could not work, could not move very well, and could not sing in the choir any longer. Bob White was gorgeous, a mix of Robert Redford and Robin Williams, with a witty sense of humor, bright, clear blue eyes and perfectly wavy, blond hair. He had just met and married the woman of his dreams. Yet the internal and silent suffering he held within was too much for him to bear. He felt like a failure to his wife, his job, and his community. So he overdosed. Those of us who knew him were stunned and affected deeply. So how do we cope with our own chronic pain?
I was born with a spinal condition where one bone is out of place. Over the years it has hurt off and on in my lower back when the bone touches nerves. Recently the padding on each side of the vertebrae has slipped out, causing severe and acute pain with every movement I take. So now, my empathy for others has grown considerably as I deal with this. In the past few days, my docs have been calling it lots of things and experimenting with different medicines. Still here, smiling, but stuck in bed. I need help to move! This is messing with my head because I am the athletic type who does hot yoga for an hour and a half a day, lifts weights, and hikes regularly! Plus I coach others physically, mentally, and nutritionally for wellness and personal development. I eat anti-inflammatory foods, stay away from all grains and sugars, and get only nutrient dense, clean proteins and fats. How could this happen to me? Why, God? Why Universe? I feel like a failure, I wonder when I will feel some relief, and help others again. Yet, I am certain there are lessons in compassion and empathy here. I'm seeking them with vigor as I attempt to heal.
So how am I coping? I write down 3 positive affirmations that I want to see appear in my life as if they are already happening. I write these down daily and read them aloud throughout the day. I meditate for a few minutes here and there. I ask for help and share my story. I don't want to follow those who have hurt themselves on purpose. I want to rise up and heal myself and aid others in their paths. I light candles, and essential oils diffuse throughout my home. I pray and know that I am not alone. Neither are you.
I have to take my own research, advice, and writing that I so passionately share with you all in my books as medicine for myself. Otherwise I would be a fraud. It does not mean that I have not cried like a baby these past few days, but I have not kept my pain and suffering inside, like a dark secret.
Please tell me if you are in pain so I can add you to my prayer list. Please tell me how you manage the physical and mental stresses associated with chronic physical pain. Please sign up on my contact form so I may reach you with my free content and workshops. The links to my YouTube videos are on the top left side of every page.
Sometimes when I connect with folks in an email newsletter or in the social media realm they write back saying that they are 5 feet 7 inches and 117 pounds so why should they listen to anything I have to share with them? I'm responding here because there are a lot of skinny folks out there who are not necessarily fit or healthy.
When we have a fast metabolism out body burns whatever we consume at a fast rate. That's it. It may be because of a genetic inheritance. It may because we lift weights and muscle burns more calories at rest than fat. It may be that we are very active all day and night even though we don't hit the gym. We may just forget to eat and naturally, accidentally practice intermittent fasting.
My work does not only addresss obese folks. My work and research addresses chronic conditions and nutrition facts that dispel the old dogma. My research includes anti cancer healing therapies that Re food based, no matter what your height and weight ratio. My research focuses on wellness and life change. I teach meditation and motivation. I include fermented foods, grain free and sugar free living, how to read ingredient labels on foods, the secret names for MSG and sugar, and so much more. I inject spirituality and am your biggest cheerleader whether you are looking to get a new job, a new lover, or just recover from the daily stresses of modern life.
We all have the opportunity to learn and grow every day in many ways. We all have the opportunity to reach for our superior health leading to our Superior Self. Nobody should do this alone. I have built a tribe of support for your endeavors. I am here for you. I want to help you. That is my passion and my purpose in the second half of my life.
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KJ Landis is her first success story. She lost 50 pounds in 60 days and has kept it off for years. Daily research and coaching has fueled her to love others into a better existence.
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