I was discussing child rearing the other day with my cousin, also a mother of 2. She mentioned that as hard as it is to stretch the umbilical cord from parent to child as they enter the teenage years and beyond, we must let them be independent in many ways. Otherwise we are enabling them to come running to us for solutions to their problems their whole lives. Isn't the role of a parent to also be guiding the children into making their own decisions based upon reason, pros, and cons? If we trust in the way we have raised our kids, then we must know that they will be OK. Really.
Now this does not mean that we cut the cord altogether. This does not mean that they will escape making plenty of mistakes, as we have, throughout our lives. One of the precious things my son does is call me up to check in, just catch up on my daily doings, without there being a problem to work out. Keeping the lines of communication open is very important in any relationship, especially as one's offspring moves on up and out into their own world, sometimes thousands of miles away. My cousin called this GROW and GO. Our joy is to watch them grow; to feed and water them, nourish and engage in activities that enrich their whole lives. Then it is time for them to go and be apart from us.
GROW and GO. What do you think of this concept? I want to hear from you.
Sincerely,
KJ Landis
SuperiorSelf channel on YouTube
@superiorself on Instagram and Twitter
KJ Landis on Linkedin
Superior Self with KJ landis on Facebook
Now this does not mean that we cut the cord altogether. This does not mean that they will escape making plenty of mistakes, as we have, throughout our lives. One of the precious things my son does is call me up to check in, just catch up on my daily doings, without there being a problem to work out. Keeping the lines of communication open is very important in any relationship, especially as one's offspring moves on up and out into their own world, sometimes thousands of miles away. My cousin called this GROW and GO. Our joy is to watch them grow; to feed and water them, nourish and engage in activities that enrich their whole lives. Then it is time for them to go and be apart from us.
GROW and GO. What do you think of this concept? I want to hear from you.
Sincerely,
KJ Landis
SuperiorSelf channel on YouTube
@superiorself on Instagram and Twitter
KJ Landis on Linkedin
Superior Self with KJ landis on Facebook
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