When my good friend Chef Ike introduced us, Torino said, “I don’t want to know you as an average human being would want to know you.” Well that was either an honest first line or a line from a movie I hadn’t seen (LA living had shown me some “one liners” in the late 1980s.). So I decided to test him. I invited Torino dancing the next night at a reggae club after work, late, around 11:30pm. I told him I had to be kind and dance with everybody who worked there because I was new in LA and they were my new family. He was fine with that.
Well, when we finally danced our first dance together, it was love for me. It felt easy and right. He stayed with me 24/7 for two weeks and then he left for Tokyo on a modeling contract. We wrote letters the old fashioned way for 6 months. Then he called once or twice on a land line. Torino wired money into my bank account and sent me a post card saying, “Take a jump over the fence. I’ll be waiting on the other side for you.” I took the chance, bought a plane ticket with the money he sent to me, leaped over the Pacific Ocean and danced into his arms on April Fool’s Day!
We have been together since meeting in 1989 and have been married since 1993. We have traveled the world together modeling in 44 countries as a couple. I gave up modeling in 2000, when I was pregnant with my first boy, Golden. Then 3 years later came a girl, Sage.
My circle of life would’ve been so different if I hadn’t taken a chance after knowing someone only 2 weeks and then moved across the world to be with them a short 6 months later. I credit our purposeful intention of getting to know each other to handwritten letters and lack of electronics allowing us to truly think before we wrote something down. It is a wonderful and tried and true way to communicate from the heart and really engage another human being.
I hope this helps you in your relationships with others.
-Author and Creator of the Superior Self series