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Let's Play a Game!

5/4/2020

During these past few weeks at home, I have been asking myself some questions because I have time to reflect more. I know a lot of you are feeling the same way. So I thought it would be fun to play a game with you. I will ask you some questions and you all will ask your friends and family these questions too! It can be played by virtual experience if you aren't living with them. This is an opportunity to get to know yourselves better, and those in your circle of love. Your responses may have changed from what you or your friends and family previously believed. That is the beauty of life. we are always changing and learning.

1. What is your favorite color? Has it changed from the past? Why or why not? Is there a particular memory related to the reason why you have that as your favorite color?

2. If you could transform into an animal, what animal would you be and why?

3. What is your favorite meal? Why? If you have more than one favorite, share!

3. How tall did you think you were going to be when you were a little kid? Did you make it?

4. Where is a vacation place you have dreamed of going? Why?

5. If you could spend a day with anyone living or deceased, from any age, who would it be and why?

6. When you were little and folks asked, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" what was your answer? Has that come true? Why or why not?

7. What is your favorite scent and why?

8. What is your favorite childhood memory?

9. What does hope mean to you right now?

If you want to share with me, I would be happy to hear from you!

Blessings,
KJ Landis

Girlfriend or Boyfriend?

4/27/2020

Ladies and Gentlemen, Boys and Girls! I am so happy to share with you my creative juices after a night of great sleep. Those of you who know me well, know the power that dreaming has upon my life. Ever since I was a young child I have remembered my dreams, I have dreamed in color, and I have kept dream diaries. Some of my most creative writing and art projects have come from my dreams. Today I woke up and thought of two new titles for my book, Happy Healthy You, the second edition. Coming soon...

I also woke up with a sleepy idea that arrived with a question: Why do we call our significant other BOYFRIEND or GIRLFRIEND? Unless we are young teens, it really doesn't make sense. Yet, throughout my adult life, I still have called my significant other "boyfriend" until we got married. So, today, I am asking you to rethink the concept and the word. Do they match? Is it less responsibility, commitment, and pressure to say those words? How about using grown up words like lover, partner, or sweetheart?

When we are inside for the shelter in place we have more time to ponder our thoughts, words, and deeds. We have time to allow the thoughts to really flow in free association because we are less busy. We have moments of pure imagination. What a blessing it is, to be able to really be with ourselves and our sparks of creation. What respect I have for all of you, for indulging me in the process of reading my works, whether short or long. I want to hear from you!

Thank you.
Sincerely,
KJ Landis

What to Do Next

4/20/2020

Some of us may have a passion for an activity outside of the way we earn money at this time. "If only I had enough time to devote myself to my passion, I would be able to earn an income from it." This is what I had been saying to myself for years. I have heard many of you share the same sentiments with me over correspondence.

At this time in our lives, where we are ordered to stay home and shelter in place, many of us have become unemployed. What a perfect time to really devote yourself to yourself! Dig deeply into the passions and see what bubbles up for you in the process. Can you make money at it when this shelter in place is all over? For me, I receive insights for my wellness business when I am moving, exercising indoors or outdoors. The blood flowing through my tissues and organs allows me to feel positive and the sweat and heart beats I feel with my efforts are a sign I am doing something good for myself. It is a big YES! So, what can you do to enhance your side passions during this time?

1. Make lists. List making allows us to stay on track with our goals in baby steps. We can dig deeper without getting lost in the deep holes!
2. Daydream. If there were no money to be lost or invested in your side passions, what would full freedom say to you? Write that down.
3. Action speaks louder than words. Pretend you are making money at your passion. Live in the future present. Create a daily routine as if you are in it already to win it. We have the time now to devote...
4. Ask others for their honest opinion. After making a business plan and a list, and practicing your new "work," ask someone you trust to look over and discuss honestly what he or she thinks. If you know some friends or family members who created their own dream jobs, ask them for guidance and constructive criticism.
5. Watch the tv show SHARK TANK. It really supports this model of making one's side passions come to life in the business world. Plus, if something is not viable, the advice is priceless. It is a free mentor-ship show!

I hope this has helped you, sweet friends, during this down time!
Blessings,
KJ Landis

Observe the Animals

4/13/2020

Many times on my videos, I praise the great outdoors while observing the creatures, plants, sounds, and scents. Today I would like to discuss animals in particular. When we observe animals closely, any animal, we can begin to understand what it is to live in the moment. We can see what it is like to be here, now. Enjoy and absorb every moment, moment to moment, and then it is gone. I see animals doing their "thing" with total focus of energy, like a laser beam of thought. It may be primal and instinctual, but the attention is on the instant intention. When a friend sends me a video of his cat licking its paw, it is just licking its paw. It is not planning what it is going to do after licking its paw. It is not thinking about what to buy for dinner, how many clothes there are to wash, how the kids didn't do their homework, etc.

There is a true sense of freedom in the animals I observe. If I am to become more mindful of each action I choose to do, while I am doing it, I can practice the freedom of living moment to moment too. We humans have to work at it, where creatures just do it. They really have mastered the art of being. During this time of shelter in place, we actually have the time to slow down and really focus. It is a gift. This may be the most magical learning time of our lives, if we allow it. We must embrace our inner souls and say, "I am." That is enough, more than enough.

I love you all. Thank you for the encouragement to keep sharing my thought in this space.
Blessings,
KJ Landis

We are One

4/6/2020

During this time of the Corona Virus, many communities around the world are held in a shelter in place order. This means we are to not leave the home unless we are getting essential supplies, going for medical care, or getting some fresh air. We must keep 6 feet away from others who aren't in our home space. We are to wash our hands often, very often, with hot water and soap for at least 27 seconds. My family and coworkers have been washing for double the time, just to be sure we are doing our best not to spread any germs. Singing the ABC song or Happy Birthday song twice helps with this extension of time.

When on my hikes and walks out in nature, I have seen so many families out exercising together! This is perhaps the first time in my life where I have seen so many people hiking, biking, skateboarding, skating, riding scooters, and running together. I witnessed fathers teaching daughters how to ride bikes, and mothers teaching sons how to roller skate! The smiles I witnessed around my local Lake Merced in San Francisco have been genuine. I truly have been keeping my 6 feet away from others not in my inner circle, but a smile travels miles. It is a real time of coming together as humans, if we let it.

This time in our lives can also bring us into a dark place of fear, anger, anxiety, and depression, if we allow those things to happen. The choice is yours. Find a person who you trust to share the darker feelings with. You will find out that you are not alone. Bonding through phone calls, FaceTime, emails, Skype, Zoom, and snail mail can bring us together with each other. The world is going trough this together, as one human race. We need each other and the earth's healing now, more than ever. Every challenge teaches us something. It can make us stronger in the next phase of our lives.

I believe in us. I believe love conquers fear. I have hope and love for you all. Smile at a stranger today. It can change everything.
Blessings,
KJ Landis

Simple & Fast Spring Recipes

3/30/2020

During the spring season, we usually are getting outside after being cooped up all winter! This year, because of the shelter in place ruling in a lot of US states, we are going stir crazy! So many of my tribe are asking me to give them indoor activities to keep fit while sequestered. They are also cooking together as a family! The internet is full of simple, fast and healthy spring meals! My motto is, "Dinner in 30 minutes or less, or we make reservations!" Well, all the restaurants are closed, so we must be creative, innovative, and we must conserve our funds. Most everyone I know is on unemployment right now. I have been laid off from 3 jobs where I regularly earn income.

As a busy mom, life and wellness coach, author and still waitressing at night (during non-virus times), I have to make smart and simple choices for nourishing my family. I don't usually use exact measurements but taste as I go along. I do consult my recipe development expert when developing recipes for cookbooks. That would be my daughter, Sage who is a teenager and has been going to cooking school for years.

My spring recipe is red snapper with paprika and broccoli. This delicious and nutritious meal is made on the stove top in one pan. Feel free to add a healthy starch of your family's choice!

Stove Top Snapper with Broccoli

Ingredients:
-2 large snapper
-grape seed/coconut oil
-salt/pepper/smoked paprika
-garlic powder
-chopped broccoli
-thinly sliced onions

Directions:
Heat oil on medium.
Add fish and season to taste. Blacken on one side and when you flip it, add veggies on top. Then put a lid on it and steam until fully cooked.
Enjoy!

I hope this helps you all during "lock down."
There are a lot of recipes with pictures on my website, blog, and videos. Check them out. Be well.

Blessings,
KJ Landis

I Love Ginger!

3/23/2020

It seems there are so many new discoveries being made about super foods. There are lots of super foods nowadays and they are helpful in many areas of health other than their basic caloric and nutrient absorption. That is why they are toted as super foods! Ginger is a super food that has been seen as healthy and flavorful for centuries. Let us start with a discussion about your exposure to ginger: What do you use ginger for? In what preparations and for what purposes?

What exactly is ginger? It is a root of the flowering plant in the turmeric and cardamom family. The flowers may be red, white, or a combination of yellow and green. The root is knotted and tubular with a light, tan-colored, shiny tough skin. The tougher and thicker the skin, the older the roots are. Roots that are a year old or more have more health benefits due to the age and maturity. They smell spicier and are heavier for their size too. The more mature roots have more concentrated essential oils inside of them. I am are so lucky to live in San Francisco because I can easily find ginger in the markets.

Ginger originated in Asia over 5000 years ago, but has been mentioned in ancient texts from all over the world. The ginger root has essential oils, amino acids, vitamins, minerals, and phyto-chemicals that combine to provide healing properties. What are phyto-chemicals? Phyto-chemicals are naturally occurring compounds that boost cellular function. They make everything work better. They act as antioxidants, antibacterials, antivirals, and anti inflammatory agents. Amino acids are the building blocks of proteins. Ginger includes 10 essential amino acids that the body does not make. We must get our essential amino acids through foods.

Ginger may be used for digestion issues, headaches, joint aches, flu and cold symptoms, infections, and more. Ginger is great for pregnant women as a warrior against nausea. I have a coworker who says, “Mother Nature is our shield and our sword.” Think about that statement. Plant matter can kill or cure. Usually in the forest if there is something poisonous to eat, there is a plant about two feet away that is the cure for the poison.

Ginger improves circulation, metabolism, and aids in giving us energy. Ginger helps to reduce the LDL (bad cholesterol) and improves the HDL (good cholesterol). It assists in the healthy functioning of hormones, including insulin. This helps with regulating blood sugar levels. It may aid with type II diabetes. How and why does it help with sugar and insulin? The ginger root keeps us from craving sugar. What does this? The spiciness. When we eat a lot of refined foods on a daily basis it affects our hormones and therefore our moods. We have all suffered from sugar highs and crashes. Adding ginger to our diet, even the candied dried variety can assist in stopping the cravings for junk food and sweets.

Pickled and fermented ginger, featured in Asian cooking, whether as a main component or as a condiment, can keep us from getting food poisoning from a bad batch of fish, sushi, or sashimi. Fermented and pickled ginger helps us absorb nutrients from the foods we eat along side of it. It is a probiotic. The probiotics plant themselves in the intestines. helps with digestion and immunity in this way. The more variety of probiotics introduced into the intestines, the more beautiful, healthy, and varied your internal garden will be.

We eat ginger in a myriad of ways:

Powdered
Raw
Juiced
Whole
Cooked
Candied
Fermented
Pickled
Essential oil

Here are some examples ginger preparations:
~kombucha with ginger
~pickled ginger
~ginger candy
~ginger tea with honey
~ginger in soups
~ginger in slaw
~ginger oil in a diffuser for focus and energy
~ginger with coconut oil for oil pulling from teeth
~ginger oil mixed with a carrier oil for headaches
~ginger cake
~ginger cookies
~ ginger ale or ginger beer was used for upset stomach since the 1850s
~chewing on a small piece of ginger like gum for 15-20 minutes releases all of the nutrients directly into the bloodstream and digestive tract
~the natural pH of ginger helps reduce acid in the stomach and heartburn symptoms

Now at the end of our wonderful time together, I must caution you. If taking prescription medication please consult with your health care provider about adding ginger to your daily routine. You may want to alter some of your medications as you increase the ginger products because of the general health benefits ginger provides. Also check for interactions with certain medications. I am not a doctor and cannot give personal medical advice. I am a research junkie and self-experimenter. I have found ginger to help me when I am sick and when I am healthy.

Enjoy your ginger snacks!
Blessings,
KJ Landis

Serenity and Support During Our Worldwide Chaotic Times

3/16/2020

This week we are to look at ourselves in a way of self-care and community support for those who are experiencing similar challenges. Developing serenity and supporting each other during uncertain and anxious times is not easy for most of us. Worldwide health and political turmoil is uncharted territory for a lot of us. Self care feels like a birthright during normal times. In times of worldwide unrest, however, self-care may seem selfish to ourselves, and to observers.

In peaceful times and in chaotic times, individuals still suffer from personal challenges, both big and small. How we deal with the situations personally and in a community may not be the same. The end goal is the same, though. We must sift out truths in the media drama, and we must take care of ourselves no matter what the circumstances.

To find peace within, I suggest taking a few minutes a day to breath slowly in silence, or to meditate, either in silence or with a free guided meditation app. This will help lower the chaos within. Meditation even lowers blood pressure, and helps the nervous system calm down. This will in turn help the hormones not rise up in a fight or flight reaction continuously.

To support each other in a productive way, we need to call each other and talk, really have a deep conversation with others, get together in person; any way of keeping the lines of communication open is important. Talking about our fears with others can let us all know we are not alone, and together we can make a plan, or to just be there to listen.

I hope this has helped your journey.
Sincerely,
KJ Landis

Jack of All Trades

3/9/2020

Giving myself the joy of curiosity in all things health related, I have become immersed in research. For the past 8 years, since I lost 50 pounds, I have been focused on keeping the weight off, and also focused upon helping myself heal from arthritis. The holistic approach has led me to deep dives in the health benefits and history of various superfoods like garlic, ginger. CBD, coffee, chocolate, vegan, vegetarian, and gluten free, dairy free subjects (just to name a few items of interest). Of couse, being a natural teacher, I could not bear to keep all of the good news to myself! So I coached others towards their superior selves. I also began teaching youth and senior groups privately, as well as library patrons and transportation workers here in the Bay Area.

Folks may claim that I am a jack of all trades, yet a master of none. I claim that humans are multifaceted beings with many interests. Lucky for me I am carving out my path in the wellness and prevention areas of health! So I take the title proudly. My cousin Suzie told me that if we focus on one area of research and practice for 7 years we are considered to be experts in that arena. I have exceeded the 7 years by many. I am an expert in the wellness world! Let me know how I may be of help to you. Thank you for the support and trust.

Sincerely,
KJ Landis

The Unhealthiest Things in Our World (In My Opinion)

3/2/2020

Recently I was asked to share my thoughts on what are the most unhealthy things on the planet. My answers could come from any area of what we are in contact with regularly.

From my years of coaching and research, I find donuts and French fries to be the unhealthiest foods. They combine sugar, unhealthy fat, and trans fats in order to be irresistible! Then the body wants more and more of these. They cause the body to react with a glucose spike of energy in the blood and then crashes.

For the household items, I would say bleach and ammonia. They are poisonous if swallowed (by a small child especially) and create strong aromas that are irritating to the skin and nostrils. Try using white vinegar for the cleaning instead. There are plenty of natural non-caustic cleaners on the market these days.

Finally, for the planet’s health, I say plastics are the unhealthiest thing on earth. Not only do they pollute the waters and land, they decompose and emit plant estrogens into the environment. This acts like human estrogen and can put our endocrine system out of whack. Plastics are being swallowed by sea life, killing lots of creatures as well.

I hope this has helped you, dear readers.
Sincerely,
KJ Landis

My 3 Top Fat and Weight Loss Tips!!!

2/24/2020

I get a lot of emails and questions in person asking me how I lost the weight, how I kept it off, and what do I do when I find myself slipping back into bad habits of my past. There are a few things I rely on over and over again, not only for me, but for my loved ones whom I help on their health journey,

My go to list for my clients contains these 3 tips:

1. Water! We need to consume more and more water in order to see if we are truly hungry, or if we are socially and emotionally hungry. When I lost 50 pounds 7 years ago I was adding some lemons and cucumbers to my water bottles to make them more flavorful. Now that I exercise in a hot yoga studio, I add a pinch of pink Himalayan salt or an electrolyte powder as well. It takes about three weeks for the body to get used to consuming g a gallon of water a day. Take it in baby steps, incrementally wards up about a cup a day. After three weeks your body will adjust accordingly.

2. Enlist a buddy. Accountability is key. If someone is waiting for you to work out with them or check in daily with your meal plan and activity chart, you will be more likely to stick with the program. You may even help the relationship grow closer!

3. Journal. I believe in the power of writing down our thoughts and feelings along the way. Each tiny success is a yes to you in a healthy body. It’s a life affirming book.

I hope this has helped you, my dear readers.
Sincerely,
KJ Landis

Is Blood Thicker Than Water?

2/17/2020

So many of us have heard the above phrase during our lives. "Blood is thicker than water." Family first is what it means, the blood line and heritage that connects us will bind us to our blood relatives. But is the bond healthy? Is it equal, 50-50 of giving and receiving? Are our family members draining our energy or feeding us inspiration, motivation, support, and unconditional love? Are we willing to work on the relationships or do we do the family celebrations out of a feeling of obligation? What about the strangers we meet, whom we fall in love with, and with whom we become become a family? Now our kids have the blood lines of the two strangers becoming one.

I believe that a lot of family issues are surrounded by the overwhelming feeling of obligation, of trying so hard, on all sides to represent the HALLMARK movies of the week. It just is not doable, or realistic. I have been hurt by blood relatives, and so have you. The families we make are the ones we choose, from the strangers who become our best friends, to roommates we are thrown in with in college, and beyond. Do your own work on yourself, and the right peoplewho will support your dreams will come into your lives, who do support you no matter what. I have people outside the bloodlines who I know I can count on at 3am when there is an emergency, but I would not dream of waking up some siblings with that emergency. I have sister-friends whom I would call at 3am when I wake up from an incredible dream, yet I would be laughed at (or incite anger) in the circle of family for sharing at such a time. Think about the adult mentor or teacher who helped shape your being when you were vulnerable and open to learning...You know who they are.

Family are the ones we crave in a healthy manner, and we just click, blood or not. Sometimes we outgrow those relationships as well, and it is okay. Do not feel guilty about the natural loss of the attraction. They came into our lives to teach us something about ourselves, and then when the lessons are learned there is a natural (or unnatural) exit. That doesn't mean the time spent together was not valuable. It is ALL valuable, for it helps us along life's journey.

What do you think about this? Who is your PERSON, no matter what? Are they related by blood or not? I want to hear from you!

Sincerely,
KJ Landis
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Cashews: Nut or Seed?

2/10/2020

Technically, this is not a nut, but the seed of the cashew apple. Unlike other seeds of fruit, it grows on the outside of the apple, at its lower end. It cannot be eaten in its natural raw state and the "raw" cashews sold in the market have been treated with heat to dissipate the cardol and anacardic acids in them which can burn the mouth and throat. The skins have also been removed.

We love cashew nuts in the USA, but the countries from which they come eat the whole fruit as well. The fruits are too perishable to export because they ripen rather quickly and spoil during transport. The cashew fruit tastes like a cross between a pepper, a mango, and a cucumber. It can be sweet, tart, and always fibrous. Sometimes it has a bitter aftertaste. The fibrous texture lends itself to cooking in sweet and also savory recipes. In Jamaica, it is brewed into a tea or juiced.

Cashews have magnesium, iron, fat, protein , and carbohydrates. They make a great snack that satiates one for hours.

Try different cashew products on the market like cashew milks, cheeses, and sour cream! They are delicious!

Blessings,
KJ Landis

Show Your Love

2/3/2020

I have been asked to share some meaningful ways to show our love on Valentine’s Day. This doesn't necessarily have to be a romantic love. When i was little, my parents always gave us hand-written personal Valentine's Day cards, sometimes with a few chocolates or dollars hidden inside the envelope.

We all are inundated with the commercial side of all of the holidays, but what about something more personal, showing the unique connections we have with others?

As a wellness coach, I often have clients use a small journal to record their affirmations of what they see for themselves in the future. I think this is a great gift, a small notebook or journal with a cover that is artistic and represents the personality of the receiver of the gift. This a great way to encourage others to see their dreams and goals on paper. Encourage your loved ones to read and repeat the phrases multiple times a day. Creating the new reality through repeition and hard work is doable, especially knowing somone has your back. Who? The person giving their loved ones the little YES book.

Years ago, my husband and I kept a small pad by the house phone (remember land lines?) For a whole month of we wrote something each day about what we admired in the other’s character. It was a grateful pad that we could read about each other and what we saw in each other that was so good. It was eye opening to see what we saw in each other’s greatness! This is a great practice, and simple too.

Surprises are always fun and meaningful. Fill the trunk of your loved one’s car with his or her favorite beverage from the store, add a big bow, and it will make for a happy day!

I hope this has helped your readers.
Sincerely,
KJ Landis

Benefits of Eucalyptus Oil (Feel Better this Winter)

1/27/2020

Eucalyptus oil comes from the leaves from the eucalyptus tree, which is originally native to Australia. The leaves are crushed, dried, and distilled to release the oil.

Eucalyptus smells very strong. It can be used for opening up the nose and chest for breathing better when one has a cold or is suffering from allergies. The chemical properties allow the passage ways to open up and the inflammation to reduce. One can make into a salve, mixing with a carrier oil like coconut oil. I rub it on my chest and put a dab under each nostril. Lots of ancient remedies like chest vapor-rubs and nose rubs have been used as an inexpensive way to soothe and heal the symptoms of the common cold and flu.

When I have a headache, I rub a little oil directly on my temples. If my muscles are sore from overtraining, I put a few drops of the essential oil in my bath with Epsom salts. It acts as an anti inflammatory.

The eucalyptus aroma also can be a helpful tool for focusing and energy. When studying, put a few drops into a diffuser and allow the room to smell great and change to an energizing atmosphere.

For years the common cough drop has had eucalyptus oil in the ingredients list. This can soothe a cough and sore throat. You can boil water with a few crushed leaves and add honey for a lovely healing tea.

Scientists aren’t exactly sure yet what the mechanism inside the oil is that relieves so many problems, but they are working on it.

I hope this helps you, dear readers. Happy winter!
Blessings,
KJ Landis

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Ask for What You Want...and Get It

1/20/2020

Let us look at asking for and getting what you want. I don't mean being selfish or bossy, or needy in an inapropriate manner. I am talking about being comfortable sharing one's needs and wants in a safe space.

Women, especially, are taught to nurture. We love to do it too. I am a server, a mother, a life coach, a wellness coach, a personal trainer, a teacher, and an author. Many of my jobs are helping and caring for others to enable them to be their very best.

What about me? It is difficult to say, ME, NOW. I deserve. Why? Because I have done the work, the efforts, the homework, put the time in, and now have the experience. When discussing relationships, we can get what we want by listening. Yes, listening to the other partner helps them, and us figure out exactly what we do not want. Then we can figure out what we want in our lives and ask for it, point blank.

In preparation for asking for what I want I write positive affirmations daily. I write three things down that I want in any area of my life. I say them aloud all day long. The important thing is to hand write them on a piece of paper or notebook, looking at it multiple times daily. I repeat them in the car, in the mirror, on the toilet, even! When I actualize and my thought becomes a reality, I drop the line I wrote and add a new one. The physical act of thinking of something that is a desire and then repeatedly writing and saying it over and over again is creating your future. I call it the future-present.

We can do this with a partner as well. We can each write down and repeat what we want from each other. It helps to see it to believe it, and work towards the end goal together.

I hope this helps you on your happiness journey.
Please contact me if I may be of service.
Sincerely,
KJ Landis

Rude Dinner Guests?

1/13/2020

During the holiday season, I experienced lots of families getting together when they do not do that very often. I saw entire events ruined by the addiction to the electronics. Sometimes the electronics were used as babysitters with young kids, even controlling their behavior rather than the parents having control over the kids' behavior. Today I want to look at rude dining guests.

I’m just a couple of months shy of age 55. I have been working in restaurants and cafes since age 16. My current evening job is at the organic, fine dining gastropub at the Hilton in Sam Francisco. I have worked here over 20 years.

I think with the laptop and cell phone usage creating instant everything, diners have become more impatient over the years. Fast food or fine food, folks want it as fast as the news. Then they can control the dining experience and the evening’s timing when the food is in front of them. Some staff call this rude, but I just think it is a shift related to the worldwide web creating everything at our fingertips. The savvy server or home host will figure out a way to create patience and a warm feeling all around despite what guests say or do. We can change the current language of what is acceptable in public or in private dinner events by just asking what we want up front. Some restaurants even have a no cell phone policy.

At home, it is okay to ask friends, kids, and family members to leave all electronics away from the table so as to not create distracted meal times. We can state clearly that we want the conversations to be more important than the photos and social media of the moment. We can truly engage with each other better. My close friend Jeannie asks the teenagers to drop their phones and keys in a basket when they come over for parties with her kids. Then for photo time, the phones can be pulled out, but safely tucked away again until they leave.

What do you think about this? What do you do when your dinner guests are always on the phone rather than engaging with you? Do you have rules for your kids regarding electronics use during meal times and family celebrations? I want to hear from you!

Sincerely,
KJ Landis

Self Esteem or Self Confidence?

1/6/2020

Self esteem versus self confidence: During my life and wellness coaching I have seen a difference between the two phrases.

I think that self esteem is more of our foundation, how we are centered and at peace with the world. If we don’t have a good self esteem we can create the foundation by slowly gaining self confidence through our thoughts, words, and actions. So the self confidence comes with time and our small successes in any goal we have set for ourselves. Then the repetitive successes create self esteem. Self esteem is something we have innately inside of us. It is a deep knowing that we are unique, and worthy of life’s blessings and abundance, wherever and whenever they may fall upon us.

Self confidence is self esteem in action, through our thoughts and deeds towards the outside world. We can do activities which grow our self confidence. This may lead to a self esteem which is higher and stronger over time. Actions and choices which water and grow our self confidence in turn feed our foundation, our self esteem. It is like support for a home to be stronger on the foundation.

I hope this makes sense to you! What do you think the differences are between the two phrases? I want to hear from you!

Sincerely,
KJ Landis

Money Habits and Health Habits

12/30/2019

Today we will look at our health habits and financial habits, and learn some tips for success in both areas. Life is a series of choices. We must live moment to moment, based upon the choices we make. When we make choices for our optimum health, it is like a savings account for our future health care costs. It is a bank account for our future happiness.

In health and wellness, we often ask our clients to write down everything they eat for a week and how they feel when they eat those things. A food diary is a great assessment and beginning point for a wellness coach to see what is going on in a client’s daily eating style. I also encourage my life coaching clients to write down in a small diary or notebook their spending activities for a week. Looking at exactly what we spend our money on, 24/7 for a week allows us to see the bigger picture, what our triggers are, and then we can create a plan of action. Observing without judgement the choices we make is an awakening of sorts. Do you see the relationship in the process of observing the habit in both money and food choices? This also relates to our movement choices, who we choose to spend time with, etc. We will enhance our whole lives if we go deeper into the magnification of the little things from time to time.

Like in food swaps, we can swap out unhealthy spending choices for healthier ones. Rather than spend $8 plus tax for a veggie and fruit smoothie at a retail outlet, we can spend pennies on a smoothie we make in 45 seconds at home. Plus, we see exactly the ingredients we put into it. Like choosing to host a party instead of meet up at a restaurant with friends, we save money and everyone can let their hair down at a home rather than in public. Add in a pot luck element, and everyone receives home made and delicious food made with love, plus the cost for the host is even less that way. Spending time on “fun” doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg. We can use our arms and legs and get out in nature to hike or walk. Do this with a friend and we have quality time that is meaningful and free. The bonus is that we get exercise too!

I hope these connections between wellness choices and money choices make sense to you, dear readers. I want to hear from you!

Sincerely,
KJ Landis

Self Esteem vs Self Confidence

12/29/2019

The phrases self esteem and self confidence are used interchangeably at times. We can now go a little deeper into the two meanings and how they relate, from my professional and personal points of view. During my life and wellness coaching I have seen a difference between the two phrases. I think that self esteem is more of our naural foundation, how we are centered and at peace with the world. If we don’t have a good self esteem, we can create the foundation by slowly gaining self confidence through our thoughts, words, and actions. So the self confidence comes with time and through our small successes in any goal we have set for ourselves. Then the repetitive successes create self esteem. Self esteem is something we have innately inside of us. It is a deep knowing that we are unique, and worthy of life’s blessings and abundance, wherever and whenever they may fall upon us. Some of us are lucky to come out of the womb possessing self esteem. Others of us must work at it. Both are perfectly fine processes, working towards a state of personal power.

Self confidence is self esteem in action, through our thoughts and deeds towards the outside world. We can do activities which grow our self confidence. This may lead to a self esteem which is higher and stronger over time. Actions and choices which water and grow our self confidence in turn feed our foundation, our self esteem. It is like support for a home to be stronger on its foundation.

I hope this makes sense to you all. We have the power within us to nurture ourselves and others towards the best experiene we can be, right now, in this moment. It takes a decision and an action.

Blessings,
KJ Landis